Footsteps To Freedom

I hate to hurt anyone’s feelings, but if you are trying to heal and help a broken man, you are wasting your time. You will never be enough for a broken man. They are too much work. They require too much of your time and energy. And if you don’t want to lose yourself in a toxic relationship, move on and start to choose happy for yourself.

Broken men cannot fulfill any need you have. They cannot love you wholly and securely because they don’t love themselves wholly and securely. They will always find fault in you. They will always make you feel like you are not trying hard enough to save the relationship while they are tearing it down every single day! Who can endure so much work for nothing!?

Sometimes we must come to the realization that what we desire to have in our relationship will only come if we are not that relationship. Let me try and explain that. We as women want to feel secure and have a firm foundation. We want to feel safe. We want our homes to be our sanctuary to be a place of peace and comfort after a day of crazy at the office. But who can have that when the person you are coming home to make you feel like you must walk on eggshells or say less. To keep from arguing as soon as your feet hit the threshold. It is exhausting!

Broken men are insecure men. They do not know who they are. They do not know how to navigate any emotion but anger! They think they are strong and secure, but they are not. They seek approval at every single end. And sadly, they are usually threatened by your strength.

We as women are natural nurturers. We want to help groom and take care of those who need us but sometimes that Is not good for us. We must learn we are worthy of being happy. We deserve to have a happy existence. And a peace of mind. But we cannot have that if we are always putting a band aid on a shotgun wound!

Look, I am not male bashing. I am simply pointing out that broken men need a lot of attention and time to heal. And if you are not ready to put in that time, move on!

Unresolved pain, childhood trauma, mental health and substance abuse problems can cause anyone to fall apart and feel like they are in pieces. It is harder for men to deal with mental health and trauma, than woman. Men are more stubborn; they do not seek mental health nor to they admit their weaknesses or even that they are weak.

Nothing is more exhausting and painful than to continue to work and there is never reward. Life is short and we have to live it, even if we have to leave some people behind.

No one wants their marriage or relationship to end but if staying in a relationship is causing you to lose yourself to a point where you are always angry, always sad, always stressed. That marriage or relationship is not worth it. Broken men, we love you, but we are not equipped to heal you, only you can do that.