Footsteps To Freedom

Push past the urge to stay in an uncomfortable situation because it feels comfortable. Nothing is more distressing than to be somewhere you do not want to be. Moving on in your life doing NOTHING you want or wanted to do for the sake of feeling comfortable and avoiding conflicts. Healing involves making hard choices…

Why is it when people fight, they yell at the top of their voice? It is because the louder they yell, the more they think they are right. Yelling does not mean you are right; all it means is you are incapable of controlling your emotions. Most abusers have a knack for making you feel…

My husband wrote a post this morning speaking on wasting time and trying to change someone who was not willing to change. I responded to this post by telling my husband you are only responsible for changing yourself. Could the inability to change come from other factors such as drug abuse, or mental illness? We…

The window dressing may be beautiful, but it is what is inside of the “House” that matters. We must look on the inside of ourselves and do the required and necessary repairs. If we do not the “house” will fall. Who told you, you were not enough? Who told you, you were damaged goods? Who…

Mental abuse is NEVER ok! Even if you think it is justified. Most depressed people stay in darkness because they play hurtful words in their heads until they just want the noise to stop. Be mindful of your mouth!

I heard that our tears tell our stories and our stories, if we are brave, will allow someone else to grow. This is one of the reasons I started this blog. Very seldom do we see women who are brave enough to be transparent. And it is not because we do not want to help…

Broken humans do not usually know they are broken. Broken humans sometimes mistake their brokenness for being lonely or stressed out. They sometimes believe if they have things they will feel better about their lives. When they get to a point, they have changed everything in their lives but still feel the same way, why…

Do not be afraid to move out of your comfort zone. Comfort zones makes us complacent. We miss so much when we stay stuck in a situation, marriage, job. Why are we so afraid to move on? Because it is familiar? Because we do not want to start over? Because the sex is good, the…

Unresolved issues will damage you and the people around you. Say Less and DO THE WORK!

“It is common to hold on to past mistakes that we feel are not forgivable out of fear of forgetting the hurt and repeating the behavior. So, we torture ourselves by replaying the feelings, punishment, or guilt repeatedly. Staying in this cycle keeps us stuck. It is impossible to profoundly move through the stages of…