Why are we broken? Why can’t we just own our pain, insecurities, failures without making excuses for them. Just say out loud. I AM A MESS, I AM BROKEN, I AM THE PROBLEM! It’s liberating to look at yourself and own your ideocracies. Unfortunately, this is not the world we are living in. This is the time where all things seem fake. My hair is fake, my nails, eyelashes, Instagram page, Facebook page, all of it is fake or filtered.
We appear vested in things that people want to see and hear. We spend countless hours satisfying a world of illusion. What happened to keeping it real? Now it’s fake it to you make it. Why?
Are we afraid of not being accepted? Are we afraid that no one will like us? What is the lure of faking it to we make it? Being something or someone, we are not.
The meaning of authentic is “of undisputed origin, genuine…simply put “you are true to your own personality, values, and spirit, regardless of the pressure that you are under to act otherwise. You are honest with yourself and with others, and you take responsibility for your mistakes”. (mindtools.com).
It’s not always easy to live an authentic life. Because we want to be accepted by others. We want others to like us. And our family and friends may become distant because of our authenticity. It can sometimes be a very lonely experience.
But being authentic can also be a freeing experience. Because we don’t have the stress of trying to keep up with all the lies, we create when we start a life that is not authentic.
How do we start a life of authenticity? By being honest about who we are, what we need to be happy, safe, and healthy and being open-minded, telling the truth and staying true to ourselves, not what others expect from us. And being willing to do whatever needs to be done to stay in a place of peace. We can also start with forgiveness.
Forgiveness in no way requires that you trust the one you forgive. But should they finally confess and repent, you will discover a miracle in your own heart that allow you to reach out and being to build between you a bridge of reconciliation.
Forgiveness does not create a relationship unless people speak in truth about what they have done and change their mind and behavior and only then a relationship with trust is possible. When you forgive someone, you certainly release them from judgement but without true change no real relationship can be established. Being authentic is the ability to release people from judgement and moving on with your life without bitterness. Authenticity is freedom. Authenticity allows us to take off our masks.
Broken people become whole when the work is done and the masks fall off. Broken people become authentic when we admit are a mess! Broken people become authentic when they learn that it is ok, not to be ok. Photo by Magda Ehlers on Pexels.com
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