Footsteps To Freedom

Don’t seek revenge, seek the Lord! We are looking for resolutions from people and things that are weak and broken, expecting upright and correct behaviors. How are we expecting those things when we know that those very people are still suffering from their own stuff, are still broken and still weak? Why are we upset? It foolish of us think that people who are suffering from their own stuff can respond a certain way. We continue to expect us from other people. We continue to think that because we would respond a certain way, that should be expected from someone else. WRONG! It does not work that way.

If you have a relationship with someone, it is likely that you know if they may be going through some mental health issues. Even if you cannot identify it as mental health, you know when your loved one is not quite all together.

History with people can tell us a lot of about them. For instance, I know which of my clients have anxiety. I know when some of them have depression or anger problems. I can tell if they are suffering from PTSD. How do I know this? History and conversations. Labels can be terrible, and we don’t want to label people. But we should be able to understand the people we love and care about.

Divorce, break ups, violence and several other things can sever a relationship. Although we have history with those people, when relationships are over, feelings change.

It is time to be honest with ourselves. We need to realize that we are people with emotions. When things do not work out in our relationships we have to heal and find ways to work through our own personal stuff. If we are depressed and angry about a severed relationship, we first must take ownership of our feelings and why we feel those things. Sometimes we have the inability to get some things out and that may cause us problems. We become contrary and angry from the loss. And then tell us we don’t care what people think about us. But when we act a certain way, it dictates how people view us. People view us differently and therein lies the labels I mentioned earlier.

There are so many things we need to deal with so we can be healthy. Physical health is important, but our mental health is important too. And if we ignore it, we will never be healthy. We will start to act out. We become bitter. We become vindictive and angry. The power within us do not belong to us anymore. When we seek revenge, we lose our own power. Anyone who causes us to act out and makes us look foolish, have our power.

Sometimes we just need to cry! Shout! Moan! Or simply scream! We keep things inside, deeply, so far down we seem to forget them. But I hate to disappoint you, it is there! The inability to get things out cause mental health problems.

Did you know that some people want to see you broken. They love it because it gives them a superior attitude towards you. They honestly like to see you this way. Think about that. Those same people cheering you on, telling you at get revenge, payback, hurt that other person, are the same people sitting back happy that you are this way. Be careful who you allow in your circle, until you have done some healing.

Mental health is real. It is more apparent now than it has ever been. Life and navigating through it can bring on mental health problems. We believe that things are okay, and we can work through our stuff on our own, but even therapists need therapists. But we must first admit we need help.