Footsteps To Freedom

I heard that our tears tell our stories and our stories, if we are brave, will allow someone else to grow. This is one of the reasons I started this blog. Very seldom do we see women who are brave enough to be transparent. And it is not because we do not want to help others with our stories. It is because people can be judgmental and that hurts! I want women to heal from the inside out. I want women to see and know their worth. I want women to understand if they are stuck and fearful now, it will not always be this way. I know if feels like we will always be in bondage and our lives are what they are in this moment. But it is not true. We will not be that way, always.

What we cannot do is stay in places that hurt us. No matter what it takes we must move forward when things are over. I understand fear is crippling but remember what fear is; False Evidence Appearing Real but we must allow fear to work for us. When he starts to demean and berate you, chisel at your self-esteem and self-worth we must let fear be Forgetting Everything (he says) And run! Fear is powerful. It makes our dreams go away. It makes us look at ourselves differently.

After my abuser died by Baltimore County SWAT. Fear made me believe he was not dead. I kept looking out my window. I changed my phone number. For months I took different routes to work. He was dead but my fear and his words stayed with me for months after. I wanted to go back to being me, a woman I could recognize so I went where I felt safe. I went to church,

I sat in the pew and listened to the sermon, and I knew after this day, I would no longer be fearful. The sermon started, our tears tell our stories and our stories, if we are brave, will allow someone else to grow. But you must free yourself first. When a relationship is clearly over, and you have moved on in a different direction do not go back. Do not go back mentally, emotionally, or physically. Do not go back to it in your mind and relive it. And you must think on it, think on it historically. Where it helped you grow and not hysterically where it caused you to be bitter. Always remember there is a reason he/she is an EX. Be thankful you got out alive. Be thankful for the lessons you learned that will teach you to do and be better and move on!

Because he was gone physically. I had to move on mentally. I had to let myself move from the fear that I held on to in my mind. And you must do the same.

Remember, our tears tell our stories and our stories, if we are brave, will allow someone else to grow!