Footsteps To Freedom

Know your worth! Sometimes we get so lonely, so empty, and even so desperate not to be alone, we lose our self-worth. We settle or we stay in bad relationships for the sake of being in one. For the sake of not being alone. We tell ourselves we have been together for so many years. Time with someone does not equate a good relationship. We tell ourselves I want my children to have both parents but if those parents are fighting all the time, we are only creating a normalcy of chaos for those children. We stay for financial reasons but if we are unhappy and the relationship is unhealthy finances mean nothing. We tell ourselves we can change the person. He does not love her! He is going to leave her and be with me! Maybe he will but will you trust him? Will you ever really know his motives? Sometimes we see the red flags waving and still will not leave the relationship. It is not stupidity. It is fear. Fear of the unknown. Fear of not trusting ourselves to make it on our own. The relationship is all we know. We only know how to operate in the relationship.

When I thought I had no strength left I looked into the eyes of my children and understood that it is no longer about me or what I want. It is about the beautiful gifts God gave us to take care of. Who will love your children like you do? To be able to take care of someone, we must take care of ourselves.  

Sometimes my strong, independent self gets mistaken for mean and insecure. I could not apologize for finding out who I am and whose I am. I could not dummy down to make him feel superior. I could not longer be silent when my questions made him uncomfortable. My self-worth was far more important than holding on to a dead relationship. Know your self-worth. It is ok not be ok. It is ok to be alone. It is ok not to be in a relationship. You do not need a someone in your life to prove to you that you are viable.  .